Letting go: how to ACTUALLY do it

We can all let frustration, anger, discontent and other difficult feelings we experience towards ourselves and others build up. It's easy - maybe even an instagrammy-preachy-life-coachy cliché - to tell people to let go. But what ACTUALLY helps?

Here are 10 things that might:

1. Give yourself a rant window Let yourself vent for a fixed period of time. Write it out, tell someone, think about it. When times up, it's done. That's all you get.
2. Put yourself in their shoes We can get fixated on how things affect US. Compassion dissolves anger.
3. What have you learnt? Naming what an experience taught you helps find a sense of closure.
4. Find a creative outlet Writing, painting or any form of creating helps actively channel and release feelings
5. Use mantras "I am letting go of that which does not serve me" I say this to myself in periods when I need it.
6. Consider your options Remind yourself there are only ever three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it. Which can you take?
7. Channel discontent into action Is there something you can do to influence the root cause of your feeling? Action moves us forward.
8. Get physical Exercise to decrease stress hormones and increases endorphins, and so improve your state of mind for a bit.
9. Get perspective Imagine your life 10, then 20 then, 30 years from now. Does considering the grand scheme of things help?
10. List what is good in your situation You’ll have to let go of a little discontentment to make space for this.

What are you letting go of right now? What might help?